xiv. Mother And Son’s Relationship, Confirmation Of Separation - Two Women And Two Unconverging Lines
xiv. Mother And Son’s Relationship, Confirmation Of Separation
A few years before he reached India, he started running his own business. Like many new businesses, he struggled initially. Commonly, many took a debt to start up in US, but he categorically rejected following this practice. He decided to spend a short period of time with his parents as he did the groundwork to start his business, though he dreaded it. Most businesses in US do not survive the first five years primarily because they cannot pay off their initial debts. Understanding that, he refused to follow the formula of failure. At the same time, he felt that this might be the last time he would spend a lot of time with his parents, though it was not the most ideal circumstance; he felt as if he had the obligation to share the time and the space one last time.
He ended up living with them for about a year; this was after he spent five years in Asia. He had the sense of gratitude for he was able to save a substantial amount of money. However, with regard to the relationship between him and his mother, he found that there was a chasm that could not be crossed. There were a number of ideological differences, but the most important of all such differences was that he had decided that he would become his own decision maker many years prior. Given the circumstance, he endured listening to her bemoaning and criticizing, but once he left his childhood home for the second time, there was no turning back.
This was one of reasons why he ended up taking a credit card loan; he did not bother listening to his mother’s complaining and scrutinizing. It was a possibility that she could have given intelligent suggestions, but he decided to take suggestions from others, not to reject her outright but to sustain the distance between them. This was not exactly a result of his dislike or hatred, but it was a result of his confirmation of the separation.
